There are four obstacles. The first: he has heard, right from childhood, that everything he wishes to live is impossible. He grows up with this idea, and as he acquires age, he also accumulates layers of prejudices, fears, guilt. There comes a time when his Personal Legend is so deeply buried within his soul, he can no longer see it. But it is still there.
“If he has the courage to unearth his dreams, he then faces a second obstacle: love. He now knows what he desires to do, but he thinks he will harm those around him, if he gives everything up to follow his dreams. He does not understand that love is an additional impulse, not something which hinders one from going forward. He does not understand that those who truly wish him well are longing for his happiness, and are ready to accompany him on this adventure.
“After accepting love as a stimulus, a man faces the third obstacle: the fear of the defeats he will encounter along the way. A man who fights for his dream suffers far more when something doesn’t go well, because he cannot use the famous excuse: “oh, well in fact that wasn’t exactly what I wanted anyway…” He does want it, and knows he is putting everything into it, and also that the Personal Legend is just as difficult as any other path - the difference being that your heart is present on this journey. So, a warrior of the light must be prepared to be patient at difficult times, and know that the Universe is conspiring in his favor, even if he does not understand how.
- Are the defeats necessary?
- Whether necessary or not, they occur. When he begins fighting for his dreams, man has no experience, and makes many mistakes. But the secret in life is to fall seven times, and rise up eight times.
- Why is it important to live the Personal Legend, if we are to suffer just as much as others?
- Because after having overcome the defeats - and we always overcome them - we feel much more euphoria and confidence. In the silence of our hearts, we know we are worthy of the miracle of life. Each day, each hour, is part of the Good Combat. We begin to live with enthusiasm and pleasure. Very intense and unexpected suffering begins passing faster than apparently tolerable suffering: that drags on for years, eroding our soul without us noticing what is happening - until one day we can no longer free ourselves of the bitterness, and it accompanies us for the rest of our lives.
- And what is the fourth obstacle?
- After unearthing your dream, using the power of love for support, spending many years with the scars, a man realizes - from one day to the next - that everything he always wanted is right there, waiting for him, perhaps the very next day. Then comes the fourth obstacle: the fear of realizing the dream he has fought for all his life.
- That makes no sense.
- Oscar Wilde said that we always destroy the thing we love the most. And it is true. The simple possibility of achieving that which we desire causes the soul of the common man to be filled with guilt. He looks around, and sees many others who have not succeeded, and so he thinks he does not deserve it. He forgets everything he overcame, all he suffered, everything he had to renounce in order to come this far. I know many people who, when they are within reach of their Personal Legend, make a series of silly mistakes and do not attain their objective - when it was just one step away.
“This is the most dangerous of the obstacles, because it has a certain aura of sanctity about it: to renounce to joy and the conquest. But if the man is worthy of that which he has fought so hard for, he then becomes an instrument of God, aids the Soul of the World, and understands why he is there”.
these are the four obstacles of a person's life... at some point of time he would have definitely experienced these...
ReplyDeleteas i look back in life of people who share their life with me(even i share my life with me)... the first obstacle, everyone experiences but they fail to realize, thats where the problem starts..
even though we have our own philosophies in life, and believe that as we grow we get matured.. thats not always true.. the root of all our philosophies are laid when we were as small our thoughts are now..
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ReplyDeletenice article btw da... was jus messin wit u in the previous comment... it really is true...
ReplyDeleteLife has some obstacles as you say...accepted! But we can't be generic about this. May be the last 3 problems are common in a persons' life, but i dont think the first one which you qouted is something serious. In childhood whatever we get to know is only through our family. And the parents will not say NO to everything that a child wishes for! Wishes at that age is not any goal to achieve something gr8. so it will not affect ones life tat much. (This is just my view)
ReplyDelete@ash: not always our parents say no.. but even if u ask yourself about the shyness or fear u have or had... thats mostly because we were said no by others or ourself... we may not even be aware of it..
ReplyDeleteI agree with vinod. It is true that our lives revolve around the family for quite some time in our childhood. Culture ,tradition, the good and bad learnt from family are defined objectives only within the family,and does not necessarily coincide with the reality of the rest of the world.In my sense, family are more of a guidance to save us from pitfalls rather than stopping us explore our zeals.And any goal in life solves the unique purpose of fetching us satisfaction or happiness; doesn't matter whether its kiddish or something aspiring, the purpose is the same. The so called great goals are just objectives which the majority of people agreed on. Thats purely the basis of our rational classification as to which desires are gr8 and which are menial. I hope u get my point ash.
ReplyDelete@deepak: When the family is there to guide us and save us from pitfalls then, their 'NO' has some reason behind it. A person gets to know what is good and wat is bad only after going through different stages of life. So in the 1st stage, he/she would not know things properly and the word 'no' might be an obstacle to them at that time. The impact fades off soon.
ReplyDeleteI accept that achieving a goal gives us immense satisfaction but note the first statement of the blog.Thats not really right. Definitely someone cannot grow or live a life with such negative waves haunting him/her
all the time right from childhood.
@ash: i agree the first line is quite harsh..
ReplyDeletebut i would not agree that "THE IMPACT FADES OFF SOON". the impact ll not. when a child is encouraged, he gets the courage to do it again and again. if it turns out to be the other way, he restricts himself in doing it. its true that the NO is for good, mostly, but was the child aware of it then. i don't think so. not doing something for not knowing why not & doing something for not knowing why to, creates some kind of a confusion. which may turn out to become a mental hindrance.
the first line of the second para gives the answer.